Sometimes, narcissists and borderlines use their diagnosis as an excuse. In other words, more emotional manipulation and/or intimidation. Call them on it and you can expect the mother of all guilt trips and/or rage episodes. Specifically, the narcissist or borderline tries to elicit sympathy as a deflection and distraction. This is yet another manipulation tactic and nothing more. “ I’m sick, therefore, you can’t be upset or hold me responsible.” I don’t know of any physical ailments that cause one to be a pathological liar. Some narcissists, borderlines and pathological liars conjure up psychosomatic symptoms (or just lie about being ill). Why are you mad at me and acting like the injured party?! Seriously, WTF?!” Make Excuses. As in, “ WTF are you talking about?! You’re the one who lied. Second, it can create what I call WTF Fatigue. “How dare you read my email on our shared home office computer and discover I’m cheating on you?! I’ll never be able to trust you again!!!!” The gaslighting is incredibly crazy-making.įirst, it can cause one to doubt and question your own sanity. Sometimes narcissists, borderlines and pathological liars feign anger, outrage and indignation. If this rings a bell, why do you feel sorry and more concerned for a person who continues to lie and hurt you than you do for your own well-being? This tactic can manipulate the victim into feeling bad about detecting and exposing their lies. Sometimes a narcissist or borderline will cry and act pitiful. It’s more important that you decide if you want to continue to be in a relationship with an abusive, pathological liar who continues to betray you. Particularly if you’re the kind of codependent who makes excuses for other people’s abuse of you.ĭoes she or he know they’re lying? Maybe, maybe not. However, just because they’re screwed up doesn’t mean they’re not responsible for their screwed up behavior. Who does that? Why can’t she/he just tell the truth? You’ll likely never have a definitive answer beyond they’re personality disordered and that’s what they do. Even when it would serve them better to come clean and mea culpa, they tell more lies.ĭon’t make yourself crazy trying to understand why they do this. By that I mean being able to remember and track their swampy morass of lies, half-truths, distortions and selective truth-telling. Even when they’re not especially good liars. A combination of some or all of the above.Ī narcissist’s, borderline’s and pathological liar’s capacity and shamelessness for unabated lying can be limitless. Attack the individual(s) who expose their lies or.Tell more lies on top of the original lies.If you’re in an abusive relationship with one of these individuals, you may have experienced one or more of the following reactions when catching them red-handed in a lie: Pathological liars, regardless of an official diagnosis, follow predictable behavior patterns when their lies are exposed. Narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and histrionics are frequently also pathological liars.
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